Yesterday one of my children said something that I have not heard from any of my kids before. Well, maybe they said it, and I might have ignored it, but that’s beside the point. She said, “My mom has about six stories that my brothers and I would rather she never told, but she keeps on telling them.” Our kids’ lives are made up of those stories – usually they are stories that come from everyday events or occurrences that unexpectedly turn into memories – good and bad. A fair number of our family stories involve me either misplacing a child, or saying something that embarrassed whichever child was with me at the time. Others might be about routine activities, like school events that necessitated a trip to the principal’s office, or simple trips to the grocery store that went terribly wrong. There were trips to the emergency room for broken bones that didn’t look like they were broken the previous day, and over the years there might have been a couple of difficult exchanges with police officers who didn’t think my children were as perfect as they were. There are also loads of stories of one brother sticking up for another, of backyard basketball games that ran into the late hours of the night, and wheelchair rides on the boardwalk for a baby sister on her big brother’s lap. These stories create an unbreakable web that runs from one to the other, and they tie us together – even when we sometimes wish they didn’t.
The thing is, though, your stories seem so routine to you and your family now that you are in danger of losing them. Tell stories to your ten-year-old son of his three-year-old self! Talk about the days before you had children, and talk about what it was like to bring your precious baby home – how scared you were, or how you figured she would sleep at least a few hours at a time, and you were wrong. Talk about driving around and around the beltway with a crying baby, or crying yourself on the first day of school after you waved goodbye to an independent five-year-old. When something crazy or unexpected happens, tell your children, “We need to remember this story!” Laugh with them about the plans you made that went completely off-course. Reflect on the disagreements that seemed so huge when they happened and seem pretty minor today. Tell your story of an event, and then let your son or daughter give his or her version of the same event. I bet you’ll learn something! It’s good for our kids to see their everyday lives in the perspective of a family life, and a long life to come. It helps them to see that every bump in the road is not a catastrophe, and reflecting on events like these helps our children to realize that even the hardest and saddest things we have experienced were survivable. If we can see that we have grown from the troubles we faced, and laugh at some of our biggest messes, we will not be nearly so discombobulated when the next surprise comes along.
“After nourishment, shelter and companionship, stories are the thing we need most in the world.” Pullman
“Stories are like children. They grow in their own way.” L’Engle
All athletes who participated on Lourdes teams during the fall and winter will have team pictures taken next week. Please bring in your uniforms if you have not returned them already so that everyone can be in uniform for the pictures!
29 -30 Faith Knowledge Assessments for grades 3 – 8
Pi Pizza Fundraiser, 5pm – 10pm
31 Mass at noon
3 Spring Uniforms!
Confessions, grades 5 – 8
4 Stations of the Cross, 1:30pm
6:30pm – Enrollment for First Holy Communion
5 Eighth grade Confirmation Retreat, 8:30am
6 Tag Day for grades 8 and 2
Fifth grade presents the Wax Museum of Historical Figures
7 Mass, 9am
CBN Scholarship breakfast
10 Confessions for 5-8, 1:15pm
11 Stations of the Cross, 9:30am
13 Holy Thursday, Dismissal at 12:10pm No ASC
24 School resumes
25 Performance Series final test, grade 8
26 Seventh grade to Learning Lab
28 Mass at noon
Packet pickup 3:30pm- 7:00pm
Lions’ Roar Spaghetti Dinner and SILENT AUCTION, 6:00pm
29 LIONS’ ROAR 5K packet pickup at 8:00am
Race starts at 9:00am, followed by food and fun.
Mrs. McGann, Principal
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