The other day I had a student in my office who said, “I feel so bad because I’m disappointing everybody.” Now, in his case, that wasn’t exactly true. He was struggling academically, but he was making good efforts. His parents weren’t thrilled with his grades, but they also knew he was working hard. So were they disappointed? Maybe they were a little. I learned early on that my children were far more affected when I told them I was disappointed in something they had done (not in them, but rather in what they had chosen to do). When I went off on a rant they tuned me out pretty quickly. Sometimes, though, I just needed to go a little nuts before I could move on to the next thing.
I was also a shameless cheerleader for my kids. I made it clear to them that I was sure they were the smartest, best looking, most talented children on the face of the earth. Even when I didn’t believe what I said, they did. They knew I thought they were amazing, so when they thought they had disappointed me, they were pretty sad. As they got older, I believe that they thought about disappointing me before they made some of those tricky choices kids in middle school and high school are faced with. I used the disappointment card shamelessly. It worked, mostly because they knew I thought they were capable of miracles.
Sometimes we really are disappointed in the choices our kids make – hurting a friend, playing on the iPad instead of studying, speaking to us disrespectfully. At those times, I think we have to let them know that we think they are capable of far better than what they are giving. I think most parents today are pretty good at telling their kids how well they are doing (even when they’re not – and the kids know it). It’s harder to let them know when they have come up short – but it’s really important. So when that report card comes home today, talk about the grades your children “earned” and not what the teacher “gave” them. If you make it only about the teacher, your children may begin to believe that they have no control over their successes or their failures. They can begin to believe that it’s everyone else’s responsibility to make them feel good about themselves, rather than believing that they are responsible for their own victories. Pats on the back for the good grades, and a conversation about how your children will improve those not-so-good ones will remind your children that you believe wholeheartedly that they can be superstars.
2 All Souls Day
Report Cards go home – portals open to view report cards
Strategic Planning Committee, 6:00pm
3 Picture retakes – bring in your pictures, please
4 9:00am Mass
5 8th grade parent social
7 Book Fair Preview Day for students
8 Book Fair , 3:00 - 6:00pm
9 Book Fair 7:30am - 6:00pm
10 Book Fair 7:30am – 6:00pm
Dismissal at 12:10pm
Middle School Parent Teacher Conferences
11 NO SCHOOL
Book Fair Last Chance Day 8:00am – 3:00pm
Parent Teacher Conferences, Pre-K – Grade 8
14 HSPT, 3:15
15 HSPT, 3:15
16 Eighth Grade to “Man of LaMancha” at MacNamara High School
17 Kindergarten Open House, 9am – 11am
18 Mass, Noon
19 Eighth Grade Bake Sale after 5pm Mass
20 Eighth Grade Bake Sale after all Masses
21 HSPT, 3:15
22 Eighth Grade to Little Sisters of the Poor
23 Grandparents’ Day
Dismissal at 12:10pm
24 & 25
Thanksgiving holiday – NO SCHOOL
Mrs. McGann, Principal
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