Our kids are growing up in a world where pretty much everything is negotiable – nothing is absolutely right or wrong – there are no clear lines. I was talking to the eighth graders today about equivocation. They didn’t know what it meant, but as soon as we read the definition they all began to nod their heads. They all knew exactly what it was. They see it every day in lots of ways – at home, at school, and in the headlines. I recently read an article that described the message that our public school teachers are supposed to communicate when kids want to know if something is right or wrong. When kids ask their teachers to tell them if something is absolutely right or absolutely wrong, they are told that things are only right or wrong in context, basically it “all depends.” We live in a world where relativism is the rule.
Your children will not learn what you value - they will not learn what you believe – unless you tell them and then show them. If your child does something wrong when he’s three or thirteen; if he knows that he’s not supposed to do it, and he decides to do it, you need to confirm for him that he’s made a poor choice, and that there are consequences to poor choices. If you make an excuse for her every time she veers off course by hurting someone or being dishonest, or if you accept her excuse that she “couldn’t help it”, or “something came over her”, you do her a great disservice. Our job is to grow young people of integrity and character. Each and every time we choose to ignore, explain away, or excuse a purposeful choice to do the wrong thing we chip away at the confidence and the core that our children need to become strong adults, confident in themselves and their ability to do the right thing.
I suggest we prioritize. Celebrate the mistakes, laugh at them and look at them as opportunities to learn. Never judge the child, but judge the action. Challenge the poor choices, expect more, and provide enough guidance and direction so that our kids can do more and be more.
Equivocate: V. to use ambiguous or unclear expressions, usually to avoid commitment or in order to mislead; prevaricate or hedge.
Prevaricate: V. to speak falsely or misleadingly; deliberately misstate or create an incorrect impression; lie.
“God calls you to make definitive choices, and He has a plan for each of you: to discover that plan and to respond to your vocation is to move toward personal fulfilment.
I ask you, instead, to be revolutionaries, to swim against the tide; yes, I am asking you to rebel against this culture that sees everything as temporary and that ultimately believes that you are incapable of responsibility, that you are incapable of true love.
Do not be afraid to go and to bring Christ into every area of life, to the fringes of society, even to those who seem farthest away, most indifferent. The Church needs you, your enthusiasm, your creativity and the joy that is so characteristic of you.'Do not be afraid!' When we go to proclaim Christ, it is he himself who goes before us and guides us. When he sent his disciples on mission, he promised: 'I am with you always' (Mt 28:20). And this is also true for us! Jesus does not leave us alone, he never leaves you alone! He always accompanies you.” Pope Francis
10 Mass, noon
13 Online Auction closes, 5:00pm
17 School Mass, 9am
Early Dismissal, 12:10pm
20 NO SCHOOL, PRESIDENTS’ DAY
21 Deadline for Re-enrollment for 2017-2018 School Year
23 Seventh Grade to Most Valuable Player
24 Mass, noon
27 Deadline for new families to apply for tuition assistance for 2017-2018
28 Fat Tuesday Pancake Supper
1 Ash Wednesday, Mass 9:00am
Strategic Planning Committee Meeting, 6:00pm
3 Mass, noon
4 First Penance, 10:00am
10 NO SCHOOL, All teachers to professional development at Saint Francis International School
Mrs. McGann, Principal
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